{"id":281184,"date":"2025-04-13T23:37:11","date_gmt":"2025-04-13T23:37:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2025\/04\/13\/ratna-pathaks-grandmother-wept-in-dismay-when-sister-supriya-was-born-haye-haye-doosri-beti-aagayi\/"},"modified":"2025-04-13T23:37:11","modified_gmt":"2025-04-13T23:37:11","slug":"ratna-pathaks-grandmother-wept-in-dismay-when-sister-supriya-was-born-haye-haye-doosri-beti-aagayi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2025\/04\/13\/ratna-pathaks-grandmother-wept-in-dismay-when-sister-supriya-was-born-haye-haye-doosri-beti-aagayi\/","title":{"rendered":"Ratna Pathak\u2019s grandmother wept in dismay when sister Supriya was born: \u2018Haye haye doosri beti aagayi\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Actor Ratna Pathak Shah spoke about growing up in an environment that was both patriarchal<\/a><\/strong> and progressive. She said that she had only one male cousin, and that she grew up among women. This shaped her thinking, which, in turn, affected how she viewed certain behaviours. At an event, she said that her grandmother wept when her sister Supriya was born, because she was unhappy about another girl child joining the family. Ratna said that she was outraged at her grandmother\u2019s reaction, but took solace in her father\u2019s response, which was the complete opposite.<\/p>\n

At a FICCI Flo event in Hyderabad<\/a>, Ratna was asked about raising boys in the modern world. She said, \u201cHaving two sons of my own was a very entertaining and unusual experience, one that I wasn\u2019t quite prepared for. I remember feeling very resentful about the special privileges that boys were supposed to get. I remember my paternal grandmother crying loudly when my sister was born. \u2018Haye haye doosri beti aagayi<\/em> (Oh no, another girl).\u2019 And I remember feeling terrible about that.\u201d<\/p>\n

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She said that her father\u2019s reaction gave her hope. \u201cHe was extremely proactive about objecting to that. There is Punjabi tradition where they distribute a certain sweet when a boy is born and a different sweet when a girl is born. He distributed the sweets meant to celebrate a boy\u2019s birth even though a girl had been born in the family. It was like an affirmation of acceptance,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

Ratna said that she found her grandmother\u2019s reaction \u2018very offensive\u2019. \u201cWhy should a girl\u2019s existence be so unwelcome. I realised that it starts in the families. The way that boys are treated in families is significantly different, even in educated, upper-class families,\u201d she said, adding that these patriarchal norms have existed for thousands of years, and won\u2019t be abolished overnight.<\/p>\n

In an earlier interview with Hauterrfly, Ratna admitted that she perhaps wasn\u2019t an ideal sister to Supriya<\/a><\/strong>. \u201cWe are very different from each other and yet there is a sense that there is someone like me. When we were kids, Supriya and I fought\u2026 I was not a good sister. I have to accept that I was a very big bully, but I am glad, I got all my bullying done then. I was an emotionally bully, which is even worse,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n