{"id":82313,"date":"2024-06-27T09:08:04","date_gmt":"2024-06-27T09:08:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2024\/06\/27\/its-brutus-not-bruno-the-etiquette-of-remembering-your-friends-pets-names\/"},"modified":"2024-06-27T09:08:04","modified_gmt":"2024-06-27T09:08:04","slug":"its-brutus-not-bruno-the-etiquette-of-remembering-your-friends-pets-names","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2024\/06\/27\/its-brutus-not-bruno-the-etiquette-of-remembering-your-friends-pets-names\/","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s Brutus, Not Bruno! The Etiquette of Remembering Your Friends\u2019 Pets\u2019 Names."},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"text-align:center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1050\" height=\"550\" src=\"https:\/\/i3.wp.com\/static01.nyt.com\/images\/2024\/03\/26\/autossell\/00petname-hp-promo\/00petname-hp-promo-facebookJumbo.jpg?resize=1050,550&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"It\u2019s Brutus, Not Bruno! The Etiquette of Remembering Your Friends\u2019 Pets\u2019 Names.\" title=\"It\u2019s Brutus, Not Bruno! The Etiquette of Remembering Your Friends\u2019 Pets\u2019 Names.\" \/><\/div><p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Kiyomi Lowe regularly hears people mispronounce her name or sometimes forget it altogether. \u201cI get Naomi, Kaiomi, sometimes Kimmy,\u201d she said. It doesn\u2019t bother her: \u201cI\u2019ll respond to anything.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">She is less forgiving when friends and acquaintances forget the name of her dog, a shar-pei. \u201cI get Bruno a lot,\u201d she said. To which she responds: \u201c\u2018No, it\u2019s Brutus!\u2019 The dog doesn\u2019t care. But I care for the dog.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Ms. Lowe is a stylist at Al\u2019s Barber Shop, a popular six-chair salon in Boulder near the campus of the University of Colorado. On a recent morning, she fell into a spirited conversation with her fellow stylists and several customers over a delicate question: Should you be responsible for remembering the name of a friend\u2019s pet? What\u2019s the etiquette?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cA big question,\u201d said Jen Himes, a stylist, who conceded that she sometimes made a naming mistake, which pained her. \u201cI\u2019ve gotten a lot of pet names wrong. I\u2019m, like, \u2018How\u2019s Pookie?\u2019 And they\u2019re, like, \u2018It\u2019s Rufus!\u2019 or whatever.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cMost people laugh,\u201d she said. \u201cBut some people are, like, \u2018That\u2019s offensive.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">When it comes down to it, she added, there is a pretty good way to determine if you are obligated to remember a pet\u2019s name. \u201cIt depends how important the pet is to your friend,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">There was general agreement with that assessment in the barbershop (which happens to be the reporter\u2019s regular one). The conversation mostly revolved around dogs, which, several people said, are different from other pets in that they are taken on walks and get out and about, and so deserve more name recognition than more private animal companions.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cThat\u2019s cat discrimination!\u201d objected Ms. Himes. She laughed and suggested that she wasn\u2019t all that worried about it. Even she doesn\u2019t always stick to her own tuxedo cat\u2019s name, Cosmos.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cI call her Kitty,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Al\u2019s Barbershop is owned by Al Urbanowski, who identified another key factor in determining whether you should remember the name of a friend\u2019s pet: how important the friend is to you. Mr. Urbanowski, 58, still remembers Whiskey, the name of his best friend\u2019s dog when he was 9. Mr. Urbanowski now lives in a neighborhood full of dogs, he said, and his passing relationship with neighbors makes it hard to remember the names of dogs and humans alike.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Your interpersonal connections change with age, he noted, and that changes what you can and should be responsible for remembering. When he was 25, Mr. Urbanowski said, dogs joined the hikes and other social outings that he went on with friends and were a big part of those friendships.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cWhen I started having kids, the dog names didn\u2019t roll off the tongue,\u201d he said. Remembering a dog\u2019s name \u201cis still a priority, but it got pushed down.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The group in the barbershop said that some responsibility did fall on the person trying to remember the friend\u2019s pet\u2019s name, but some responsibility might also belong to the pet-owning friend, who could pick a pet name that was easy to recall.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cThe funnier the name is, the easier it is to remember,\u201d Ms. Lowe said. \u201cLike Derek.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Derek is memorable? Yes, she insisted.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cLuke Skywalker,\u201d offered Ms. Himes, recalling one name of a client\u2019s dog that stayed with her.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cBig Tuna,\u201d said Madisyn Crandell, a stylist at Al\u2019s, referring to the name of one of her mother\u2019s two English bulldogs. (The other, Lucy, was deemed by the group to possess a less memorable name.)<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cDoug,\u201d said Jason Owens, who stood loyally nearby as his 11-year-old son, Ryder, got a haircut. Doug was the name of a friend\u2019s Corgi. \u201cHow can I forget a name like Doug,\u201d Mr. Owens said. But maybe he\u2019d forget Doug if it were a person\u2019s name, he added.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Recently, the Owens family\u2019s Rottweiler, Derby, died. Mr. Owens said most friends didn\u2019t remember Derby\u2019s name, but they were good about remembering his nickname, Cheeky.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cShe was the sweetest dog,\u201d Mr. Owens said. \u201cDumb as rocks, but the sweetest dog.\u201d He didn\u2019t at all mind if his friends also called Derby dumb. \u201cI\u2019d be, like, \u2018Yeah, you\u2019re right: She\u2019s dumb as rocks.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Others have trouble getting past a forgotten pet name. Christian Huerta, a receptionist at Al\u2019s with a pit bull mix named Frida, had one friend who repeatedly called her dog Freya. Ms. Huerta devised a plan.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cI texted her multiple times when she was coming over, and I said, \u2018Frida is excited to see you\u2019 \u2014 like, I\u2019d spell out Frida,\u201d Ms. Huerta said. \u201cAnd my friend was like, \u2018Freya!\u2019 And I was upset.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Ms. Huerta reflected on that. \u201cMaybe it\u2019s not so serious,\u201d she said. \u201cMaybe I\u2019m too sensitive.\u201d She then likened it to forgetting something else important, such as a birthday.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cI guess it bothers me because I love my dog so much,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/06\/27\/science\/pets-names-etiquette.html\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kiyomi Lowe regularly hears people mispronounce her name or sometimes forget it altogether. \u201cI get Naomi, Kaiomi, sometimes Kimmy,\u201d she said. It doesn\u2019t bother her: \u201cI\u2019ll respond to anything.\u201d She is less forgiving when friends and acquaintances forget the name of her dog, a shar-pei. \u201cI get Bruno a lot,\u201d she said. 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