{"id":90274,"date":"2024-07-08T13:00:05","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T13:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2024\/07\/08\/the-track-star-knew-he-was-gay-now-everyone-else-does\/"},"modified":"2024-07-08T13:00:06","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T13:00:06","slug":"the-track-star-knew-he-was-gay-now-everyone-else-does","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/news.talkwithrattan.com\/index.php\/2024\/07\/08\/the-track-star-knew-he-was-gay-now-everyone-else-does\/","title":{"rendered":"The Track Star Knew He Was Gay. Now Everyone Else Does."},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"text-align:center\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1050\" height=\"550\" src=\"https:\/\/i3.wp.com\/static01.nyt.com\/images\/2024\/07\/08\/multimedia\/08hurdler-01-zjkm\/08hurdler-01-zjkm-facebookJumbo.jpg?resize=1050,550&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"The Track Star Knew He Was Gay. Now Everyone Else Does.\" title=\"The Track Star Knew He Was Gay. Now Everyone Else Does.\" \/><\/div><p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Trey Cunningham found those first few phone calls excruciating. He has spent his life learning to keep his cool while out on the track, under intense pressure, in the glare of the crowd. But as he waited in the quiet for his family and his friends to pick up, waited to tell them he is gay, he found himself dripping with sweat. It was, he said, the \u201cscariest thing I\u2019ve ever done.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">He went through with it, at age 20, for much the same reason he is discussing it publicly now, five years later. There is a technique that Cunningham has long used in his training. \u201cWe say our goals out loud,\u201d he said. \u201cIf there\u2019s something we want to achieve, we say it. Putting something in words makes it real.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">That Cunningham \u2014 one of the leading high hurdlers in the world \u2014 is ready, and willing, to do that does not make him unique. He is not the first elite athlete, or even the first <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.out.com\/sports\/2021\/6\/21\/shacarri-richardson-thanked-her-girlfriend-after-making-olympic-team\" title=\"\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">top<\/a> <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.outsports.com\/2022\/8\/31\/23329429\/nico-young-running-gay-northern-arizona\/\" title=\"\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">American runner<\/a>, to discuss their sexuality. <\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">As one of the few active male athletes who have been comfortable enough to come out, Cunningham is, though, still a rarity. \u201cThere are lots of people who are in this weird space,\u201d he said. \u201cThey\u2019re not out. But it is kind of understood.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">For the last five years, that has been Cunningham\u2019s reality, too. He had never really thought much about his sexuality in high school; he was too busy, he said, \u201changing out with friends, having fun,\u201d nursing dreams of playing for the Boston Celtics and then, almost to his surprise, discovering that he enjoyed \u201cflinging myself at solid objects at high speed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It was in college when he started to \u201cexplore the idea,\u201d but there was no sudden realization, no lightbulb moment. \u201cIt took me a while to know it felt right,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">He attributes that to his upbringing. Cunningham grew up in Winfield, Ala., a place he described as \u201crural, quite conservative, quite religious: the sort of place where you did not want to be the gay kid at school. So I had certain expectations of what my life would look like, and it took me a little while to get my head around it looking different to that.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The same, he said, was true for his parents. That was the most difficult call of all, when he decided the time was right to make it, and there was, as he said, some \u201cpushback\u201d on the news.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cWhat was true for me was also true for my parents,\u201d he said. \u201cThey had certain expectations for their little boy, for what his life would be like, and that\u2019s OK. I gave them a five-year grace period. I had to take my time. They could take theirs, too.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">That equanimity is fairly typical of Cunningham. Though he missed out on a place at this summer\u2019s Paris Olympics at the U.S. trials last month, placing ninth in the 110-meter hurdles in a \u201cstacked\u201d field \u2014 \u201cIf you do well in the U.S. trials, you know you have a good shot at a medal,\u201d he said \u2014 he is still <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/worldathletics.org\/records\/toplists\/hurdles\/110-metres-hurdles\/all\/men\/senior\/2024?regionType=world&amp;timing=electronic&amp;windReading=regular&amp;page=1&amp;bestResultsOnly=true&amp;maxResultsByCountry=all&amp;eventId=10229611&amp;ageCategory=senior\" title=\"\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">ranked 11th in the world<\/a>. In 2022, he won the silver medal in the event at the world championships in Eugene, Ore.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Despite that success, he describes himself, both by his standard and that of elite athletes, as a relaxed character. That is not guesswork, he says; he has scientific proof. His master\u2019s thesis at Florida State University involved evaluating student athletes to establish which personality traits had the strongest correlation with burnout. He applied the psychometric test to himself and discovered he was \u201calmost too chill.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Whatever worries he harbored while he made those phone calls, though, proved to be misplaced. His parents were the exception. The rule was either understanding or \u2014 in the nicest possible way \u2014 something a little closer to a shrug.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">He got the sense that at least some of his friends had been \u201cwaiting for me,\u201d so confirmation did not make any difference to those relationships, he said. \u201cI was really lucky to have a group of people who did not care,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The reaction within athletics has been similar. Though Olympic-level sports is, naturally, a cutthroat, competitive environment, he has found his sport to be instinctively supportive. Cunningham has thought a lot, over the last few years, about why that might be, and has reached the conclusion that track and field has a sort of dual identity.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It is, in one sense, the purest form of athletic endeavor, the truest measure of who is the fastest and the strongest, who can jump the highest or throw the farthest. But track is also, in many ways, a \u201csport for misfits,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">His favorite examples are the shot-putters. \u201cThey are the strongest people in the stadium,\u201d he said. \u201cBut they also have the most delicate footwork.\u201d It is a discipline for that niche subset of the population who have bodybuilder arms and ballerina feet. \u201cTrack and field has something for everyone,\u201d Cunningham said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It also has an unapologetic single-mindedness. \u201cThe only thing that matters is whether you\u2019re running fast today or not,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Still, few male athletes have felt comfortable discussing their sexuality openly. It is, after all, an intensely personal thing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Nor does he particularly believe that it is something anyone should feel they have to do. He would like track and field, and culture more generally, to get to a place where \u201cpeople do not have to \u2018come out,\u2019\u201d he said, where people can \u201cjust get on with being them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But he knows doing so carries practical and potentially financial considerations: His profession could easily require Cunningham to compete in places where his sexuality, widely known, could place him in danger. He would, he said, have to consult his management before traveling to a meet in a country like Qatar, <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/04\/17\/sports\/soccer\/womens-world-cup-lgbt-saudi.html\" title=\"\">where homosexuality is a crime<\/a>, for example.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">He believes, though, that while he is neither the first nor the only active athlete of his standing to discuss his sexuality in public, doing so has value. He does not feel he has been inhibited in his performances over the last few years, when his sexuality remained a closely held secret. He does not give the impression that any great weight is being lifted by discussing it now.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Whatever stress and tension existed abated five years ago, when he made those phone calls to his friends and family. Everyone who he feels needs to know has known for some time, he said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But that old training mantra has stayed with him. Cunningham is a writer, by inclination; he finds that putting his thoughts on paper helps him to work his way through them. But he knows that there are times when it pays to say something out loud. It helps to make things real.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<aside class=\"css-ew4tgv\" aria-label=\"companion column\"\/><\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/07\/08\/world\/americas\/trey-cunningham.html\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trey Cunningham found those first few phone calls excruciating. He has spent his life learning to keep his cool while out on the track, under intense pressure, in the glare of the crowd. 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